tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6915402573269993780.post6490991225311569710..comments2023-03-15T03:50:12.433+13:00Comments on K1W1: Child Abuse - what becomes the focus?Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02947362845702151868noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6915402573269993780.post-66489366559381267682011-01-26T21:18:16.775+13:002011-01-26T21:18:16.775+13:00I don't know the answer M. I can only say.... ...I don't know the answer M. I can only say.... I got enough cuddles for those little ones who need them and by the sounds of it.... so do you. It's a shame that deprived kids NEED to go searching for what is their right - comfort and security. The fact that they NEED to search for it means they run the risk of stumbling along those who offer it laced in petrol...a bad mix. <br /><br />You're a brave courageous woman M and I am ever so blessed to have actually have met you. Thank you. xxJaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02947362845702151868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6915402573269993780.post-27502679549824826602011-01-26T12:09:35.469+13:002011-01-26T12:09:35.469+13:00I was sexually abuse twice at aged 8 or 9 years by...I was sexually abuse twice at aged 8 or 9 years by a much loved, young family member. I never knew what was going on at that age, but I do remember feeling safe and secure snuggled up to him the first time. My parents were old school and never showed much emotion, so I grew up feeling unloved and very insecure, which could be why I liked the attention. There was other childish experimentation with other younger boys, but not the actual sex act.<br />Then my grandma, my buddy, my pal died, I lost the plot and had my first breakdown and it was after that, that I craved male attention. I think I was looking for that safe secure feeling from when I was little, anything to make me feel like someone loved me.<br />There were a succession of males after that, but none of them made me feel special until I met my ex. I went for the nice warm feeling it gave me when I was with him and never saw any of his faults.<br /><br />I am glad that child abuse is talked about openly these days, maybe males who prey on children will start feeling some guilt, but what about all the other little ones out there who need to feel loved, needed and special. Do they search unknowingly for attention and innocently place themselves in positions that could prove dangerous to them?<br />My uncle was a 3 time convicted pedophile, so I grew up knowing about people like that. Dad would have killed him had he laid a finger on me or my sister, we knew to keep away from him, even when we went to my grandmas house where he lived. <br />A very interesting subject, that has made me think about why I did what I did way back then.mamarewoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07698159879678871702noreply@blogger.com